by Dessa B. Tariman
Obey your parents. Obey your elders. Obey your kuya or ate. All these words we hear a lot of times. You may say, “what my parents ask me to do is hard.” The question is: Is it really hard or you just don’t want to do it? Colossians 3:20 tell us to “obey our parents in everything, for this is pleasing to the Lord”. It does not tell us to obey our parents only when what they ask us to do is easy. It tells us to obey them in “everything” –easy or hard, enjoyable or difficult
Obeying may seem hard, but in obedience there are blessings. You see, when we obey our parents, we are obeying the Lord. Remember the 4th commandment, Honor your father and your mother; Obedience is part of honoring. When we obey them, we are entitled to the blessings said in Deuteronomy 28:1-14 “you will abound in prosperity, you will be the head and not the tail, and you shall only go up and not down”…. there are a lot more! Only if you obey. If you continue reading Deuteronomy 28, verses15- 69 also tells us the curses for those who disobey.
There are much more blessings! Ephesians 6:1-3 promises a long life for those who obey. I think all of us want a long life here on earth, and Ephesians 6:1-3 promises just that.
The Bible says in Philippians 2:14, “Do everything without grumbling or questioning.” But what does everything actually mean? Mr. Webster defines it as “all”. Obedience is part of that “everything”. And if obedience is part of it, it means that we cannot grumble or question our parents or our elders when they ask us to do something. Murmurings aren’t allowed either, because murmuring is a way of grumbling. In the American Standard Version (ASV) of the Bible, Philippians 2:14 is written in these words, “Do all things without murmurings and questionings.” Read on to verse 15 of Philippians 2. It says, “that you may be blameless and innocent, children of God without blemish in the midst of a crooked and perverse generation, among whom you shine like lights in the world.” Wow! Can you believe that?! We only need to “do everything without grumbling or questioning” to be “blameless and innocent, children of God” and “lights in the world”!!
Isn’t God just so good? God, our loving Father, is willing to forgive us and adopt us as His very own children. He wants us to be His children even though we have disobeyed Him and our parents, even though we have grumbled many times. He is such a forgiving God. Let us then acknowledge our failures and sins, and repent of them right now. Let us also ask God for His help and for His graces that we may be able to obey our parents and our elders with all our hearts
Do you want to be blessed (and not cursed)? To blameless and innocent? Wanna be a child of God? A light to the world? All we have to do is simple: we just have to obey immediately, without grumbling or questioning and most of all, we have to do it with great joy in our hearts to obtain all the blessings and promises reserved for those who obey!!
[This article was written in 2004 and was published in Catanduanes Tribune. Original footnote: Dessa B. Tariman is a 14-year old Catholic home schooling student. She started reading the Bible at the age of 4. She has read the Bible four times over and now going on her fifth cycle. She and her family attends Mass daily.]